How many of you interact with individuals who are really smart or competent but have poor interpersonal skills? On the other hand, how many of you are considered by others to be the one who is ‘Socially Challenged”? Here are a few tips to dealing with both sides of the dilemma.
DEALING WITH THE SOCIALLY CHALLENGED:
- Find something about them that you like.
- Engage them as a ‘buddy’ or share ‘tips’ on how they can improve their interactions with others.
- If they brush you off or are just plain rude, let them know what you need from them and why. If they continue to be difficult then chances are there are some other issues present. Talk with a supervisor or human resources person for assistance in the matter.
- The last option is to avoid them altogether if possible. While I do not recommend this, it may be necessary depending on the situation.
IF YOU ARE SOCIALLY CHALLENGED:
- Stop being defensive and do something about it. If at least three people think you are awkward in social situations then chances are – you are awkward in social situations.
- Find a personal or executive coach or therapist to help you become more socially aware. Most of the time, it is just a matter of identifying and understanding the environment you are in and the culture of that environment.
- Put forth a sincere effort and stick with it. It hurts at first and feels pretty weird, for you and others, but over time it will get better.