As stated in Part 1, confidence is a co-creation: you believe something about yourself; the world affirms it; and then you feel it. It sounds easy enough, right? Once you decide you want to be more self-confident and instill confidence in others, you can start the journey.
Building confidence is just like building anything else. It takes a plan, some time, and maybe a little support from others. I like to think of things in three simple steps. So, “How do you get confidence?”
1. Define yourself.
2. Align your goals (little ones and big ones) with your values.
3. Achieve your goals by keeping the little and big promises that you make to yourself.
Define yourself: Spend some time thinking about your strengths and your passions. Find out what drives you. Some questions that you might ask yourself are:
· “What comes easily for me?”
· “What makes me most happy?”
· “What stops time for me?”
· “Around what types of people am I most engaged and at ease?”
Align your goals: Use your self-assessment to set some personal or professional goals. Make sure that the goals align with your passion and have meaning to you, so that when you accomplish them, you will feel a sense of fulfillment. For example, if you have a knack for cooking, plan to enhance your skills with a few classes and host a dinner party for some friends.
Remember goals are time specific. Those other things you want to do “one day” are called wishes. So make a plan, and stick to it.
Achieve your goals: Every big goal is achieved in small steps. Make note of the little steps and promise to take them. Keep your promises. As you make progress, you appreciate your strengths along the way. Affirmations (speaking your future desires in present tense) are great reminders of our promises, and affirmations keep negativity at bay. When you misstep, stumble, or fall–get back up. Never dwell on negative thoughts about yourself, just concentrate on your best attributes, adjust your plan and carry on.
While you are on the path toward your goals, aligned with your passion, you will get compliments -receive them! Never underestimate the power of embracing acknowledgement for what you do well. When someone compliments you, it means that they have confidence in you!
Confidence is a co-creation.What do you think?