The Confidence Series: How To Keep It and Use It (Part 3)


“If you have no confidence in self, you are twice defeated in the race of life. With confidence, you have won even before you have started.” ~Marcus Tullius Cicero

When you are achieving your goals you gain-self confidence and people who witness your successes come to have more confidence in you. Keeping confidence requires that we continuously set goals, focus and delegate.

Renew: It’s easy to get into a “goal rut.” Once you achieve a goal, set a new one. Always have before you a goal that is both inspiring and realistic. Is it time for you to set a fresh, new, inspiring goal?

Failures threaten to undermine confidence: both the confidence we have in ourselves and the confidence other have in us. Failure is a natural and productive part of success – when we “fail forward” (“Failing Forward” by John Maxwell is a good book on reframing failure).When we lose focus, we are likely to experience failure of a less productive nature: The kind where we find ourselves off course and tired. Failing forward, with our confidence intact, requires that we stay focused on the goal(s), and delegate.

Focus: Renew your focus each day. Daily quiet time spent reminding ourselves what we are doing and why we are here helps us discern the important tasks from the distractions.

Delegate: Delegation is underrated. Doing too much actually undermines our confidence. We’ve all heard the catch phrase, “Delegate what you do not do well.” I find that what is more for women is, “Delegate what someone else can do better.” Do what you do well, and delegate the rest.

Confidence is the fuel that powers our big steps. Interestingly we tend to take it for granted when we’ve got it, and notice only when it’s missing.When we have confidence, we use it to effect positive change in our world. It is the gift that keeps on giving.

What has confidence fueled in your life?


About Kali Patrice

Kali Patrice is the founder of The Image Studios, a Chicago-based firm that specializes in branding and image communication. She blogs through “Successful Expression” to share fresh ways to share insights about image, personal branding and self-expression.